So he's "just not that into me". How do I get over it?

You actually think that book liberates women?? Honey how old are you? If you need a book to instruct you on good common sense then that's a different ball game. Greg Behrendt is chauvinistic and ist poor excuse for a man. This man holds no PHD,Psy D, B.A, or even an ociates Degree in Psychology. What makes you think he's an expert on relationships. He's only a writer for " and the City." He's book is based on no brainer advice. Also Mr. Behrendt can not group all men together. Guess what there are some men that are genuinely shy. It's the ones that come on too strong you have to watch for. This is not the 1950's it's the 21st century. If you like the guy then ask him out and yes I said it. It doesn't make you bad person to ask a guy out. Hell I've done it. You do not need a book tell you how to live your life. Mr. Behrendt lives in dream world.